Friday, December 4, 2020

No News Is Good News

 I have news, and none of it is good.

My phone rang at 8 a.m. on Thanksgiving Day, and I knew what that meant. My mom had had a Covid test the previous day. Yep, she is positive, and it's been very rough. My brothers found out that UW-Madison was administering a monoclonal antibody infusion and they got her in the very next day!

But she has been feeling terrible. She was in the ER earlier this week, where they discovered a blood clot in her lungs. She is on Eliquis now and still feeling awful. She has just about every risk factor there is, so we are very worried.

She lives in the independent living section of a retirement community, which is terrible for this situation. Her community is filled with Covid, and I have a heart condition, so we can't go in. We hired a company to send a nursing aide every day, but they are so short-staffed that they don't make it every day.

Then I got a call from my principal on Wednesday. "I have really bad news about a former student, she said. A student I had been very close to going back to 8th grade, had died unexpectedly on Tuesday at the age of 19.

My heart is broken. Isaac lived in my neighborhood so we've stayed in touch. The first time I met him in 8th grade, he said, "No teacher has ever liked me, and you won't either." Of course, I fell in love right then and there. I cannot imagine how his parents are getting through this. He was an only child, and he had an amazingly close relationship with his mom -- who is also a special ed teacher and who worked at a middle school with me.


Because I don't know what to do with my grief, I designed a unisex mitt in Isaac's honor. His mom is very active in outdoor sports, so the first pair goes to her.

Then there is the Republican legislature in Wisconsin, which wants teachers back in school in January -- no matter how bad community spread is. We are counting on the Democratic governor to veto this bill. The GOP does not have enough members to override a veto. 

It is a dark time. 

15 comments:

  1. I am so sorry for your troubles. Knitting is a good way to get through it. I'm sending lots of good healing thoughts for your Mom.

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  2. Yes, knitting keeps me grounded during grief and stress. So sorry your mom is hurting right now. And 19 is no age for deaath....

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  3. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I don't think I know a soul right now that is not worrying about or grieving someone.

    I can relate to your grief over losing a student. One of my favorites was a suicide last year and I really took it pretty hard even though I had him in first grade and he died while in high school

    Keep calm and knit on....it's the only thing keeping me sane right now. Araignee

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  4. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Sending all the healing wishes her way.

    I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. I do know what it is like to lose a student. Wish I could be there to give you a hug, cook you a comforting dinner and just take a way some bit of the pain for 5 minutes. You are in my thoughts.

    Knitting is a great soul soother. I know your student's mom will much appreciate the time and thought you put into her gift mitts.

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  5. So sorry to hear about your mom and Isaac. Your emotional plate is overflowing. So glad you have your knitting to keep you a bit grounded.

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  6. Wow any of this on its own is bad enough, but all at one time is more than awful.

    I will keep your mom in my prayers, and I hope she can recover. And I will also keep Isaac and his family in my prayers; I know the mitts will be a blessing to his mother.

    Take care the best you can. xoxo

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  7. I'm so sorry about all of this. My mom is in an assisted living place and they've already had one flair there--she is fine but I don't think she takes the precautions she needs. A friend had blood clots and got treated and she is fine--hopefully your mom will feel better soon. I'm so sorry about your student. That is always so hard. Thinking of you today.

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  8. I'm so sorry to hear your mom is ill and for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  9. Know that I am thinking of you! I hope by now that your mom is doing better. That was so sad about your former student! Sending lots of hugs from WA.

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  10. My heart is filled with sadness and worry for you and all you are dealing with. The loss of a wonderful student and your poor Mom. I am sending you love, I hope you can feel it and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Stay safe.

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  11. I'm behind on my blog-reading, so I'm hoping that by the time you read my comment things will be looking a little better. I'm be holding you in my heart and sending healing love. XO

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  12. Many prayers to you aa you grief and lots of prayers for your mom. I hope she starts to feel better soon so you worry less.

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  13. I, too, am just catching up on blogs and am so sorry! I hope by now your Mom is doing better and feeling better. How frustrating not to be able to be with her...and then to lose a former student. 2020 has not been a kind year. Wishing you some peace.

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  14. I am so sorry for your loss. It is too soon for Isaac to pass away at such a young age. I am sorry your mom has Covid and hope she gets better soon! Love the pair of mittens and lovely way to comfort his mother at this time. Take care!

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  15. Iam so sorry. Knitting is always the thing I come back to and gets me through, but it is really hard sometimes. Take care of yourself.

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