Wednesday, November 7, 2018

It's Always a Surprise

It's been almost exactly a month since I last posted.

I hope to be back online soon, but for the next week I'll be focused on my family. After a decade of struggling with dementia, my father passed away this morning. It was surprise. In my experience, it always is. My first father-in-law was in a coma for days before he died, and still it was a shock when he left us.

Out of respect for my dad, I haven't said much about his illness. It has been a very difficult decade. He suffered from frontal-temporal dementia, and it turned the sweetest man in the world in to a very angry person. The kind, funny, smart man who raised me hasn't been around for quite a few years.

He is in a better place. I will always miss him.

17 comments:

  1. My sincere condolences. Take time to care for yourself.

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  2. I'm so sorry to hear this, and am sitting with you virtually.

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  3. I am so sorry to hear this. I am still struggling with the loss of Daddio from dementia in January. It's so different a grieving process than it was with my Mom. I became so protective of the old guy it feels more like I have lost a child.
    May his memory be a blessing.

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  4. Sending you my love and deepest sympathy. I am so sorry of this second loss of your father.

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  5. God bless your father and your family. And I know exactly what you mean - even if you know it's coming, it's always a surprise.

    Take care.

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  6. I am sending good thoughts. And I am glad you can have good memories of your father-- not just the way he was at the end, with the dementia... It is such a loss.

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  7. I am so sorry for your loss. Holding you in my heart. Be sure to take care of yourself as well.

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  8. Oh, I'm so sorry! Sending you virtual hugs & peace. You're in my thoughts & prayers.

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  9. Prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.

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  10. Deb
    I m so very sorry thatyou've lost him twice. That is one of the toughest things about dementia. I hope you can get some sleep, and that those around you take good care of you as you grieve

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  11. Sending a hug and prayers for strength and comfort.

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  12. I am so sorry for your loss and the loss of your Father over the past decade. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  13. I am so very sorry for you loss, praying for you and your family during this time.

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  14. My sympathy to you and your family. I wish you all peace.

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  15. So very sorry to hear about your dad, Deb. Know that I'm thinking of you and sending big hugs. Take care.

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  16. Oh Deborah ..... I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

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